Twenty years ago today Bloggerboy moved into a furnished apartment in Frankfurt. Just as today's fine October morning, the weather was mild and sunny. Back then, Frau Bloggerboy was finishing up a job in a northern German city, so I had the place to myself for a couple of months. I distinctly remember the day I moved in, the strange but pleasant smells of an apartment that had been lived in for many years by a recently-deceased owner and then rented once or twice to short-term tenants, the look and smell of the thousand books lining shelves throughout the apartment, the unusual chill coming from the tiled floors, and the outdated colors of the Italian tiles -- brown and green. Two months earlier I had met with the deceased owner’s sister and the property manager. The sister was an elderly artist, a potter who made otherworldly pottery and who lived in the Rheingau. The rental market was extremely tight in Frankfurt, and I was getting desperate to find a place to live so that I could head back to the US and make arrangements for our belongings before my new job started in October. Most Americans, myself included until then, have never experienced a tight rental market. On the afternoons that the real estate ads came out in the local Frankfurt newspaper, a line of fifty or more apartment searchers would form at the newspaper's office where the new edition was first available. This was before cell phones, so friends of the searchers would occupy the nearest phone booths to be the first to call about new ads. And I, as a lone American, wet behind the ears and only having a temporary job offer to brag about, was set out in the world to find a place to live for me and my wife. After trying and failing several times to get a lease, I came up with the brilliant idea of asking my German mother-in-law, who lived in Frankfurt, to accompany me on the next apartment visit, thinking that the evidence of local and, more importantly to German landlords, German connections would boost my chances of getting a lease. Well, Schwiegermutti and I drove out to a nondescript townhouse in a second-rate part of town for the next appointment. Fantastic! Bloggerboy would love to live here! Please take me! Turns out that the house owner was a psychologist and that the only thing that interested her was why a grown man would bring along his mother-in-law to an apartment viewing (i.e. no lease).
The first thing that caught my attention about the furnished walk-up apartment, other than its great, central location on a quiet side street, was the books. After greeting the owner and property manager and taking a quick look at the rooms, I went over to one of the shelves in the living room and picked out a book that caught my fancy. I made some comment to the owner about the book. The property manager wandered off to check on something in the kitchen. The gentle owner came up to me and said in her softly-spoken German, “I’ve made up my mind, you can have the place, I think you’d like the books.” Mind you, my love of literature had rarely brought me a material advantage before, only sceptical looks from professionals who could not understand how anyone could devote so much time and attention to the liberal arts. My undergraduate studies in the unemployable arts were a distinct disadvantage in my job searches. My new landlady appeared to me as one of those angels in a Wim Wenders film, radiating inaudible waves of comfort to a lost soul. As so often in my life when things seemed to have reached a dead end, a person of remarkable character entered my life and helped me achieve the change in direction that I longed for (but often could not articulate). I dedicate this post to the fond memory of the gentle woman who let me stay in her apartment at a point when I was starting to think about abandoning my project. Later, we had many pleasant afternoons drinking coffee with her at our place or out at her home, where you could just catch a glimpse of the Rhine River from her back yard while sitting under a huge cherry tree. I’ll write a bit more about her later.
The day I moved into our new, furnished apartment, I brought in my limited belongings, set them down, and then sat myself down on the antique sofa in the living room that looked out on a tree-lined street and blue skies. I opened the balcony door to enjoy the fresh autumn air, soothing my nerves after the long apartment search and after a thousand-mile truck drive accross the southern United States in late August in a large rental truck that did not have functioning air conditioning and that backfired loudly every time I turned off the motor. Is there a better feeling than arriving someplace where you feel you belong? After a few minutes on the sofa, I remember saying to myself: “I can imagine staying here for a long time”. As I write this post, I’m looking out the same window at the same trees that are turning a golden brown under a blue sky. All but a few of the books have been replaced by our own books -- still too many for the size of the place. The outdated tiles are gone. We own the place now and are raising two kids in it.
And I still have the feeling that I could stay here a lot longer.